Managing a relationship is both an art and a science. It is an art in the sense that you need to be practical and proactive when it comes to doing whatever it takes to move it to the next level and a science in that you should be systematic, calculative and tactful in handling your presumed soul mate for the common good of the partnership. One wrong move and a series of problems emerge sending both of you into relationship turmoil. Are you sabotaging your relationship? Below are 5 ways to tell if you are contributing towards your own downfall.
1. Insecurity and less confidence about your body
While it is normal to feel a little embarrassed about some faults in the body e.g. scars, too much emphasis on them may lead to serious relationship problems. It even gets worse when compliments make you nervous and you feel embarrassed to the extent of you covering up your naked body to avoid being seen by your partner. Such a behavior could lead to withdrawal from sex and greatly compromise intimacy in a relationship, killing it instantly.
2. Unreasonably snapping at petty issues
It may appear human to disagree sometimes, what matters in any argument or disagreement is the way issues are handled between couples. There may be a small problem yet a partner decides to over react blowing things out proportion in the process. Yelling at your partner is not the best way to handle your differences as it only accomplishes the opposite and may even prompt the other person to yell back resulting in confrontations. This is a common act by individuals with anger or temper issues.
3. Excessive jealousy in the relationship
Jealousy is a sign of love. However, too much jealousy could mean low self-esteem and/or high level of insecurity, a feeling that you are not good enough for your partner and that someone may take them away from you. Jealousy that is not controlled could be driving him or her away slowly. It is good to trust them and always give them benefit of doubt where there is no sufficient evidence to support your insecurities.
4. Too much communication to stay in touch
Communication forms the backbone of any relationship. In contrast, staying on Skype, Facebook, Twitter, WhatsApp or other forms of modern communication with the hope of keeping in touch could be sabotaging the relationship by boring each other. It is sometimes recommended to stay a while without communication in order to be missed by your partner.
5. Comparing your partner with your Ex
Constant comparison between your partner and your ex could be the fastest way to lose him or her. Alternatively, expecting them to disappoint you by cheating on you like it happened in your previous relationship could create chaos among you. You are more likely to create new relationship problems that would be unmanageable.
Relationships can be fun but at the same time be a disappointment when they fail to meet our expectations. Regardless, good relationships can be fun and enjoyable while bad relationships have the potential of permanently changing someone’s view on relationships – in a negative way.